How much of success in life is luck vs. choice? An interesting thought experiment, but the truth is that it's more important to maximize and emphasize the controllable than worry about how much is uncontrollable.
You can always find a reason to complain, and you can always find a reason to be grateful. The former will lead to a miserable life; the latter will lead to a more pleasant life.
https://yourmeaninginlife.com/blog/it-will-always-be-something
There are many misconceptions about how important growth is to your life, from what kinds of growth are possible, whose growth is meaningful, and how growth is meaningful even in the face of endings and death.
https://yourmeaninginlife.com/blog/misconceptions-about-growth-oriented-meaning