Unless you would feel fine walking around with underwear on your head screaming obscenities and randomly punching people in the face, you are letting others influence you. Just make sure that you don't let others influence you in ways that keep you from living your best life.
https://yourmeaninginlife.com/blog/how-you-let-the-world-influence-your-decisions
You decide what meaning the events in your life have to you.
https://yourmeaninginlife.com/blog/you-can-find-meaning-in-whatever-happens-to-you
Asking where you see yourself in five years is a good exercise to determine both where you're going and what you want to be doing today to reach your desired future state.
https://yourmeaninginlife.com/blog/where-do-you-see-yourself-in-five-years