Unless you choose to enter a competition where there are winners and losers, others do not have to lose for you to win. You can win by living your best life and cooperating with others who are living theirs.
https://yourmeaninginlife.com/blog/life-is-not-a-zero-sum-game
You decide what meaning the events in your life have to you.
https://yourmeaninginlife.com/blog/you-can-find-meaning-in-whatever-happens-to-you
Asking where you see yourself in five years is a good exercise to determine both where you're going and what you want to be doing today to reach your desired future state.
https://yourmeaninginlife.com/blog/where-do-you-see-yourself-in-five-years