Blame is frequently used as an excuse for unproductive or controlling behavior. If there is nothing you can do to ensure an offender takes responsibility, though, blame is detrimental to your ability to improve your situation.
https://yourmeaninginlife.com/blog/someone-else-is-to-blame-so-what
You decide what meaning the events in your life have to you.
https://yourmeaninginlife.com/blog/you-can-find-meaning-in-whatever-happens-to-you
Asking where you see yourself in five years is a good exercise to determine both where you're going and what you want to be doing today to reach your desired future state.
https://yourmeaninginlife.com/blog/where-do-you-see-yourself-in-five-years