The ethics of selfishness and altruism are not as obvious as they seem. The obvious lines are if you are hurting yourself to benefit others or hurting others to benefit yourself, but from there it becomes debatable.
http://yourmeaninginlife.com/blog/the-ethics-of-selfishness-and-altruism
You decide what meaning the events in your life have to you.
https://yourmeaninginlife.com/blog/you-can-find-meaning-in-whatever-happens-to-you
Asking where you see yourself in five years is a good exercise to determine both where you're going and what you want to be doing today to reach your desired future state.
https://yourmeaninginlife.com/blog/where-do-you-see-yourself-in-five-years